Distant Friend
Friends being distant?
It could be one of two things.
1. Distant friends might no longer value you in their lives?
They might think they’re too good for you, think you’re not good enough, they might be judging you, they might like someone else better…
But more likely…
2. Distant Friends are trying to scrape by just like you are.
- They’re busy with their kids’ schedules.
- They’re overloaded by work.
- They’re consumed by a project.
- They’re exhausted, not sleeping well, fatigued.
- They or someone they love is sick or dying.
- They’ve experienced a breakup or a loss of employment or death.
- They’re in the middle of a job or housing or other family transition.
- They’re going through a down time where they need space and reflection time.
Or…even more ironic, they might be sitting around wondering why YOU’RE so distant! Worrying you think you’re too good for them, that they’re not good enough, that you’re judging them or like someone else better.
Speculation does friendship a disservice.
Wondering why your friend is being distant? Pick up your phone and text, call, leave a voicemail. Send an email. Mail a card. Make an excuse to go out. Ask.
The truth may be a whole lot better than what your imagination projects.
Connected with those old friends yet? Read back here to my previous challenges: How Can I Find a Friend or The Normal, Everyday Tragedy of Being Friends
Warren Baldwin November 16, 2012 (12:28 am)
Good, healthy perspective, and sound advice. Life simply happens, and we grow distant. A little bit of effort can often close the gap. Good post.
Sarah November 16, 2012 (8:35 am)
Thanks, Warren. It’s so easy for the human mind to worry itself into fiction, rather than taking the time to understand what is really happening. I’m convinced speculation often disserves us. :)
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