Read About Friendship No. 3

Each week, the Read About Friendship series features a well-known author and his or her writings on friendship. Feel free to submit other quotes and info about these authors, or to suggest authors for future posts, in the comments section.

Henri Nouwen On Friendship

There is a twilight zone in our hearts that we ourselves cannot see. Even when we know quite a lot about ourselves-our gifts and weaknesses, our ambitions and aspirations, our motives and our drives-large parts of ourselves remain in the shadow of consciousness. This is a very good thing. We will always remain partially hidden to ourselves. Other people, especially those who love us, can often see our twilight zones better than we ourselves can. The way we are seen and understood by others is different from the way we see and understand ourselves. We will never fully know the significance of our presence in the lives of our friends. That’s a grace, a grace that calls us not only to humility, but to a deep trust in those who love us. It is the twilight zones of our hearts where true friendships are born.

–Bread For the Journey, pg. 24

Read earlier posts on friendship featuring C.S. Lewis and Brennan Manning.