A 3-letter Answer That Diffuses Every Argument

Behind most arguments and hurt feelings lies one question:

Do you value me?

I’m jealous of someone else in your life. Do you value me?

You blow off hanging out with me. Do you value me?

You don’t consider my opinion worth hearing. Do you value me?

You’re so full of yourself you don’t notice me. Do you value me?

You’re not doing your fair share, so I have to do more. Do you value me?

The next time you’re in an argument or dealing with hurt feelings, give this diffuser a whirl: take a step back from the immediate problem and send a message that clearly answers the question “Do you value me?”

When the answer is yes, it tends to deflate arguments on the spot.